Who Do You Really Want To Be?
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Who Do You Really Want To Be?
A picture of two deer right beside the path as walkers strolled by.
My thoughts generate my feelings.
My feelings compel my actions.
My actions create my life.
Mr. Pommoi wants to be a respectable man. He treats people well. He gets to work on time and always does an excellent job. However, when Mr. Pommoi doesn't get enough sleep, or he is hungry, he frequently loses focus on his goals of being a respectable man. In other words, he starts feeling grouchy. When he feels grouchy, he usually forgets his discipline of who he wants to be. He begins speaking monosyllabically, complaining about petty infractions, and he snaps at his colleagues. During these times, his coworkers know when he needs rest or food. He frequently does not.
One day as he was giving a curt reply, he caught a glimpse of himself in an office window. He was a small man, but he looked like he was puffing himself up to try and look more prominent. He was leaning aggressively toward his colleague. And he looked angry. All this as he was talking about his stapler, which his coworker had used unwittingly. He didn't like what he saw. He realized he wanted to be a respectable man even when he felt grouchy.
When Mr. Pommoi was unaware, his reactions reflected his internal feelings. He felt grouchy, and he, initially unknowingly, took out his emotions on his friends and coworkers. Once he could see himself, he began to transform his actions to reflect better who he wanted to be.
Our thoughts and feelings will control us if we are unaware of them. However, if we can notice and detach our identity from how we feel, we gain power in our lives because we can build our character on who we want to be. The feelings will not go away, but we don't have to let them control our actions.
Our beliefs and emotions are always trying to satisfy their compulsions. When we focus on who we want to be, even when we don't feel like it, we can create our lives to reflect our deepest desires better. It's not easy, but when we succeed, we feel better about everything we do.
Who do you really want to be? Pay attention to how you act and, if need be, gently transform your thoughts and actions to reflect your goals more accurately. Instead of just reacting to life, create your life your way.
It is my honor to walk with you as we move toward a more comfortable and happier workplace.
May you achieve your goal today.
Posted September 3, 2019
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