Creating Self-Discipline: A Class To Learn Self-Discipline and Control
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We express Self-Compassion in our Self-Discipline
Blair Ashby
You want more control in and over your life. Self-discipline is one area you can exercise that desire.
Creating Self-Discipline
An
eight-week class that will help you learn and create the habits of caring for
yourself.
We so often lose ourselves in the frenetic activity of surviving. Thus, we must discipline ourselves to create our profound dreams. In this class, we will learn Self-Discipline as a process of creating ourselves. We will start with small and doable tasks and gently grow our skills into powerful tools to create the life we want to live.
I invite you to take more control of your life.
- Each class will last eight weeks, meeting once a week for one-hour sessions.
- Each class will be $500 for one to five participants—for example, you and two friends.
- If your group has more than five people, each additional participant will be $100. Please contact me here to organize larger classes.
- We will set a regular meeting date for our weekly class sessions.
We will cover our brain’s challenges with succeeding from inspiration alone. Then we will discover some secrets that harness your ability to redirect your focus from inspiration to self-discipline. We will end each class with some simple exercises that begin wiring your brain for the self-discipline you desire
Our goal is to end this class series with new habits that propel you toward accomplishing your goals and the self-compassion you desire to create your life around your genuine goals.
Awareness is the bases of the class
The foundation of the class is practicing awareness. Awareness is teaching our minds to see what is happening in our lives, especially the auto-pilot reactions that tend to control our days.
Here is a general breakdown of our days. A sensory event starts a thought process--a series of thoughts and feelings. These triggering events help or hinder us in achieving our daily goals.
If we can recognize the triggering events or the thoughts and emotions started by them, we gain the ability to use them to our advantage. Thus, awareness gives us power in our lives.
One of the best ways to practice awareness is meditation, so we will gently build a daily meditation practice to train our brains to see the triggers that help and hinder us in our goals. Each week we will also talk about our meditation experiences so we can learn from each other.
Register for a private class with Blair at mutually agreed upon times.
WHEN:
We will meet at a mutually agreed upon time once per week for eight weeks.
What:
(click on the class title if you want more information about one particular class)
Class 2: Setting Yourself Up for Success
WHERE:
Live online via Zoom, a free video-conferencing software.
Please visit this page for instructions for setting up Zoom: Set up Zoom
WHO:
This course is for any adult who:
- Wants to gain more control in their life.
- Longs to create their life instead of reacting to life.
- Is trying to accomplish some tasks that seem to have grown too big to achieve.
- Wants to discover the Joy, Peace, and Contentment they desire.
How Much: $500 for the Eight Week Class
The course fee also includes one year of access to all the classes’ recordings so you can rewatch them anytime online.
Register for a private class with Blair at mutually agreed upon times.
Here's More Info
Here is some info to help you feel more comfortable as we begin this journey.
I have built my classes upon active learning. In other words, we will put the lessons into practical use. We’ll start with Wire Building in each session, and then I’ll give a short talk. Throughout all this, we’ll enjoy group discussions to absorb and process what we have learned. Lastly, I’ll offer an awareness activity to do outside of the class sessions, so you continue to practice and learn during the week.
For a more in-depth look at each session. Below is an outline that I will use to guide our meetings. Please know, I constantly update this outline to represent the newest information I have. Thus, the outline for our class session may differ slightly from this one.
Class One:What is Self-Discipline?
How does it benefit us?
What is Self-Discipline?
How does it benefit us?
How does it benefit us?
In the first class, I will introduce you to the ways our minds work and how to utilize those methods for our benefit.
Opening Question: what compelled you to join this class?
Talk: The Survival Brain and Our Sense of Survival
- Brain Wires: We are our wiring, not our wires.
- Triggers. The initiator of the automatic thoughts our mind experiences.
- What are your thoughts?
- Survival Modes. Unaware - they control us. Aware - we can choose.
- Sense of Survival. Mental and emotional threats and benefits.
- TFFML (The Formula For My Life)
- Lots of Minor Changes Lead to Big Transformations
- When we change our thoughts, we change our life.
Set yourself up for success.
- Practice Awareness
- Notice the thoughts, emotions, and behaviors that push and pull you.
- Program Your Mind to use Triggers for your benefit.
Self-Discipline is when we recognize the triggers and choose what we authentically want.
- We live authentically.
- We value ourselves.
- We recognize and utilize our desire for Joy, Peace, and Contentment.
- We recognize and utilize our desire for meaning and purpose.
Daily Exercises to
- Create Self-Discipline.
- Awareness – Notice the Triggers
- Mind Management and Brain Training
- Your intention for Mind Management is to discover you.
- Meditation
- Contemplation
- Create a daily Joy, Peace, and Contentment (JPC) event.
- Create a time just for you.
End the Session with Wire Building
- What is Wire Building?
- Think about one experience that you had today.
- What do you notice in your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors?
Homework
- 2 Minutes in the morning and the afternoon of mind management.
- Four minutes in one sitting instead of 2 minutes twice is fine.
- Find or Do a Daily Event that brings you JPC.
- Define the achievable goal that you want to accomplish during this class.
- Write your goal down and evaluate it every day.
- Define the small steps you will take to implement your goal.
- Write these steps down.
- Make and place triggers that will help you succeed.
Class Two:Setting Yourself Up for Success
Start with Wire Building
From this session until the end of the class, all classes will begin with Wire Building
- What did you notice in your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors?
- What happened? What was the trigger?
- What did you feel immediately after the trigger?
- What is the reality? Try to see beyond the narrative in your mind.
- What do you really, Really, REALLY want in this situation?
- How did your daily event go?
Talk: Awareness - Noticing Our Triggers, Our “Subtle Little Buggers”
- Noticing the Triggers: Sensory Inputs and Thoughts that start memories and feed distorted thinking.
- “Subtle Little Buggers” Look for the subtle triggers.
- The Committee or Parts of our Brain
- A Story About Haverhill.
Setting Yourself Up for Success
- Notice when you feel positive about what you have accomplished.
- Plan on how you’ll handle the next trigger.
- Use Triggers for your benefit.
- Create Habits that Support You in Your Goals
Homework:
- 3 Minutes in the morning and the afternoon of mind management.
- Six minutes in one sitting instead of twice a day is fine.
- Keep doing your daily event.
- Keep going on your small steps to implement to achieve your goal?
- If you have missed your small steps goals, reevaluate and adjust to set yourself up for success.
Class Three:Our Survival and Our Sense of Survival
Start with Wire Building
From this session until the end of the class, all classes will begin with Wire Building
- What did you notice in your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors?
- What happened? What was the trigger?
- What did you feel immediately after the trigger?
- What is the reality? Try to see beyond the narrative in your mind.
- What do you really, Really, REALLY want in this situation?
- How did your daily event go?
Talk: The Committe and Working with It
- The Committee or Parts of our Brain
- Hearing Each Committee Member
- Ask each part to work with us
Setting Yourself Up for Success
- Notice you feel positive about what you have accomplished.
- Plan on how you’ll handle the next trigger.
- Use Triggers for your benefit.
Homework:
- 5 Minutes in the morning and the afternoon of mind management.
- Ten minutes in one sitting instead of twice a day is fine.
- Keep doing your daily event.
- Keep going on your small steps to implement to achieve your goal?
- If you have missed your small steps goals, reevaluate and adjust to set yourself up for success.
Class Four:Class Four: Meditation/Contemplation - Mind Management to Create Your Goals
Class Four: Meditation/Contemplation - Mind Management to Create Your Goals
Start with Wire Building
From this session until the end of the class, all classes will begin with Wire Building
- What did you notice in your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors?
- What happened? What was the trigger?
- What did you feel immediately after the trigger?
- What is the reality? Try to see beyond the narrative in your mind.
- What do you really, Really, REALLY want in this situation?
- How did your daily event go?
Talk: Class Four: Our Sense of Survival and Working With It.
- What is our Sense of Survival?
- SOS Reactions are against our thoughts and emotions.
- Try to notice the triggering thoughts, feelings, or behaviors that start the desired or undesired reaction.
- Our Brains think it is the expert. We believe it before we accept reality.
Setting Yourself Up for Success
- Notice you feel positive about what you have accomplished.
- Plan on how you’ll handle the next trigger.
- Use Triggers for your benefit.
Homework:
- 6 Minutes in the morning and the afternoon of mind management.
- Twelve minutes in one sitting instead of twice a day is fine.
- Keep doing your daily event.
- Keep going on your small steps to implement to achieve your goal?
- If you have missed your small steps goals, reevaluate and adjust to set yourself up for success.
Class Five:Attachments,
Identification,
Personalization.
The Meanings Our Minds Put On Them
Attachments,
Identification,
Personalization.
The Meanings Our Minds Put On Them
Identification,
Personalization.
The Meanings Our Minds Put On Them
Start with Wire Building
From this session until the end of the class, all classes will begin with Wire Building
- What did you notice in your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors?
- What happened? What was the trigger?
- What did you feel immediately after the trigger?
- What is the reality? Try to see beyond the narrative in your mind.
- What do you really, Really, REALLY want in this situation?
- How did your daily event go?
Talk: Attachments, Identification, Personalization - The Meanings Our Minds Put On Them
- What is an attachment?
- Our feelings hint at our attachments.
- Are we reacting to our attachments or responding to our goals?
Setting Yourself Up for Success
- Notice you feel positive about what you have accomplished.
- Plan on how you’ll handle the next trigger.
- Use Triggers for your benefit.
Homework:
- 8 Minutes in the morning and the afternoon of mind management.
- Sixteen minutes in one sitting instead of twice a day is fine.
- Keep doing your daily event.
- Keep going on your small steps to implement to achieve your goal?
- If you have missed your small steps goals, reevaluate and adjust to set yourself up for success.
Class Six:
Reality, Thoughts,
and Suffering.
Choose Your Suffering
Reality, Thoughts,
and Suffering.
Choose Your Suffering
Start with Wire Building
From this session until the end of the class, all classes will begin with Wire Building
- What did you notice in your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors?
- What happened? What was the trigger?
- What did you feel immediately after the trigger?
- What is the reality? Try to see beyond the narrative in your mind.
- What do you really, Really, REALLY want in this situation?
- How did your daily event go?
Talk: Reality, Thoughts, and Choosing Your Suffering
- You are going to suffer in reality.
- You are going to suffer discipline yourself.
- If you are going to suffer no matter what, which one do you really, Really, REALLY want?
Setting Yourself Up for Success
- Notice you feel positive about what you have accomplished.
- Plan on how you’ll handle the next trigger.
- Use Triggers for your benefit.
Homework:
- 9 Minutes in the morning and the afternoon of mind management.
- Eighteen minutes in one sitting instead of twice a day is fine.
- Keep doing your daily event.
- Keep going on your small steps to implement to achieve your goal?
- If you have missed your small steps goals, reevaluate and adjust to set yourself up for success.
Class Seven:
Acceptance, Letting Go, and Non-Attachment
Start with Wire Building
From this session until the end of the class, all classes will begin with Wire Building
- What did you notice in your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors?
- What happened? What was the trigger?
- What did you feel immediately after the trigger?
- What is the reality? Try to see beyond the narrative in your mind.
- What do you really, Really, REALLY want in this situation?
- How did your daily event go?
Talk: Acceptance, Letting Go, and Non-Attachment
- A story - "We'll See."
- A game - Here You Go
- The thought which we don’t grab is the thought we don’t have to let go
Setting Yourself Up for Success
- Notice you feel positive about what you have accomplished.
- Plan on how you’ll handle the next trigger.
- Use Triggers for your benefit.
Homework:
- 10 Minutes in the morning and the afternoon of mind management.
- Twenty minutes in one sitting instead of twice a day is fine.
- Keep doing your daily event.
- Keep going on your small steps to implement to achieve your goal?
- If you have missed your small steps goals, reevaluate and adjust to set yourself up for success.
Class Eight:
Notice you feel positive about
what you have accomplished
Start with Wire Building
From this session until the end of the class, all classes will begin with Wire Building
- What did you notice in your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors?
- What happened? What was the trigger?
- What did you feel immediately after the trigger?
- What is the reality? Try to see beyond the narrative in your mind.
- What do you really, Really, REALLY want in this situation?
- How did your daily event go?
Talk: Notice you feel positive about what you have accomplished
- You have given yourself a daily event and rested in it.
- You have achieved meditating every day.
- You have progressed on the goals you want to accomplish.
- Now you know you can succeed at any goal that you set!
Setting Yourself Up for Success
- Notice you feel positive about what you have accomplished.
- Plan on how you’ll handle the next trigger.
- Use Triggers for your benefit.
- Test your beliefs. Learn and grow.
Homework:
- 10 Minutes in the morning and the afternoon of mind management.
- Twenty minutes in one sitting instead of twice a day is fine.
- Keep doing your daily event.
- Keep going on your small steps to implement to achieve your goal?
- If you have missed your small steps goals, reevaluate and adjust to set yourself up for success.
Register for a private class with Blair at mutually agreed upon times.